I shall in this writing examine Forget-ness, or the phenomenon of forgetting. As I proceed with this fundamental nature of human being, I shall be considering its effect on human’s actions and emotions.
At the theoretical level, there is a separation: Logical Mind and Emotional Mind. Actions are from Logical Mind that in turn gets feedback from emotions resultant from the Emotional Mind. Having made this distinction, it follows naturally to ask: Where do Forget-ness initiate? Is it an act of the Logical Mind (LM) or the act of the Emotional Mind (EM)? The answer to this question is led by other questions: When humans do forget and where the forgotten things exist? Or are they basically destroyed that they have no existence? But if they do no have an existence and are destroyed once human forgets; then, why humans can remember things? Thus, taking the feature of ‘remembering’ as a factor, can we say that we can decide whether forgotten things as existing or destroyed only through the fact whether we can remember them or nor; if we can remember something, we would say that it still has an existence and if we don’t, we can safely say that such thing is destroyed? Could be… However, for this to be true, we must prove that things that are forgotten and cannot be ‘remembered’ are things that do not affect us altogether. So to refine the previous statement we shall say: if I cannot remember something and that something does not affect my logical or emotions; then, only in this case, we can say that what’s forgotten and unremembered has no existence or has been destroyed. In this sense, on forgotten things existence or none, the act of remembering stays to be the deciding factor. But this is even not true. Psychoanalysis and a multitude of psychological theories have proved to us that things are forgotten and cannot be remembered can still affect us subconsciously throughout the course of our lives. It can affect our personalities, behaviors, and actions. Hence, forgotten things even if not remembered are not destroyed inside us and still have an existence, that might go even further and impact us behind the scenes.
So where forgotten things exist? Physically, this would depend on whether forget-ness is an act of the Logical Mind or the Emotional Mind, my very first question. I will take analytical yet observational steps in attempting an answer to this. Psychologists and cognitive scientists tell us that Logical Mind is for structural activities, logical things, calculations… etc. Emotional Mind is responsible for feelings; that is, I would call it to be responsible for putting ‘flavors’ to the mechanics of the Logical Mind. I might be engaged in a mathematical work, pure Logical, but the Emotional Mind gives me a flavor of being excited or frustrated. Remember, this distinction is for illustrative purpose; both minds kick in inseparably. This is a rough illustration of these two minds nature for the purpose of our discussion without going into scientific details. So is Forget-ness a mechanic of the Logical Mind or a Flavor of the Emotional Mind? Here, I am not interested in the pure biological explanation of the memory works and such; however, I am concerned with the experience itself as one witnesses it. To proceed from this distinction of the Logical Mind and Emotional Mind, let’s take a model of an event that happened to us. We give the proper reaction to it in two phases, conceptually. The first phase is the instance of time in which the event had occurred. That is, the exact time of the event occurrence. This is when the Logical Mind registers the observation. The second phase is what I would call the ‘Maintaining Phase.’ It is the phase that follows the Logical Mind registering the observation or experience of the event. It is the phase that sparks the emotional reaction and it also keeps the taste of the event after it’s finished and gone. A happy event makes human happy for a while even though the event is already finished and became a past; a sad event puts the human in sorrow for a while even though it became a past. The second phase is purely emotional mind. On the other hand, the first phase is important for the Logical Mind. The viable phase for our discussion here would be the second phase, as it is the candidate phase where Forget-ness may be occurring. Since it’s the second phase that maintains the taste of an event following its finish, then, if we will forget, then, it makes sense that it’s the second phase, the Emotional Mind, as the owning part, is the one that buries the last remaining thing of a past event, which is its taste. However, the Emotional Mind does not have exclusive ownership of the last remaining bite of an event. This is because the Logical Mind can still access the Emotional Mind registry or trap it once its element surfaces and act on it. That’s when for example we speak of ‘control your emotions,’ The Emotional Mind surfaces a feeling of fear yet your Logical Mind can be instructed to act on that feeling and remove it. This element of Logical Mind still able to intervene in the Emotional Mind, we can revert and say that Forget-ness is doubted to be the act of the Emotional Mind even though it’s thought to be the owning part, it’s not autonomous and can be acted upon by the Logical Mind. Then, still our question not answered, but I will repose it in another form: is Forget-ness a flavor created by the Emotional Mind (since we called it to be creating emotional flavors to events) or is it an act of the Logical Mind caused by its intervention in the working on the Emotional Mind? If we assume that Forget-ness is an act of the Logical Mind, this means that when a human is sad for losing a dear person and while under the sadness ‘flavor’, the Logical Mind pops up and orders “Forget the sorrow now” and the order is executed and things are forgotten. If we will say that this is true; then, why Forget-ness happens gradually? If it’s an act of the Logical Mind in the fashion just outlined, then, forgetting would be like a push of a button; however, as we forget, we do this bit by bit with days. Therefore, Forget-ness can never be an act of the Logical Mind. A human does not decide to forget; however, he simply forgets. Now, let’s go to the other way: what’s left for us then is to say that Forget-ness must be then an act of the Emotional Mind since the Logical proved not to qualify. If we suppose that Forget-ness is the act of the Emotional Mind, then, we would ask: how the mind that initiated the flavor in the first place can be the same mind that works to eliminate that same flavor? The answer would be that the Emotional Mind does not work to eliminate a flavor basically. It only works to generate flavors to events. Forget-ness is not a flavor even so that we can say of it as could be generated by the Emotional Mind to remove another flavor. It’s not a flavor because it does not follow the two-step cycle outlined above with the Logical Mind registering then Emotional Mind creating a flavor to this registry. Then, if Forget-ness is not flavor; therefore, it is also not an act of the Emotional Mind.
Now that we reached that Forget-ness is not an act of Logical Mind and it’s not an act of Emotional Mind. So what is Forget-ness and how it’s done? The answer to this very first question is that there is no such thing called Forget-ness. We already set the stage that not being able to capture something into the consciousness nor remembering it does not mean that we have forgotten. There is no thing called Forget-ness in the physical reality perspective. Flavors, happy or sad, still exist inside us throughout the human life. It is the working of the Emotional and Logical Minds that many things are generated and suppressed deep inside us. It is the accumulation of events and flavors with the progressive dimension of time that a certain flavor fades away. Day in, Day out as the human lives, the Logical Mind keeps registering and the Emotional Mind keeps generating; even if someone’s life is empty, still a living being keeps his minds registering and generating even the least of sensory data from seeing and hearing… An element that keeps suppressing and pushing old flavors downward behind the scene; leaving them controlling us in no visible way. And that the human lives and that the Logical Mind has access to the Emotional Mind repository, a long forgotten flavor can still be picked up and brought into surface: what is to be called ‘Remembering.’ And once remembered, the Emotional Mind revives the memory again: you remember the death of a dear person many years ago and feel sorrow once more. The degree or such recall of emotion relies on the intensity of the recall by the Emotional Mind. This, the conclusion that there is no Forget-ness and that long forgotten flavors and feelings influence us unconsciously and can be brought into consciousness anytime, is the work of a whole branch of Psychology; psychoanalysis.
Since there is no Forget-ness, the human remains relevant to his lifetime. Let’s not leave what we experience to just come and be abandoned to this mechanism without making the best out of it. To fully utilize the moment when it’s under the siege of our consciousness… Dear moments, tough moments; moments of love, moments of hatred; moments we are surrounded by the beloved, moments of solitude; moments of learning, moments of working… All are too relevant to each one’s lifetime. Use it, before it gets archived and impacts you at the time when you are now not aware of it.